Women have adopted a cultural belief that men cannot be depended upon. They often react in one of two ways: by shaming or bullying the man for his former transgressions, whether personal or familially, or giving away their power to the man in an attempt to feed his ego as the one in charge. Neither path leads to freedom.
In truth, it is the path of the feminine to lead the masculine into following and supporting her intuition and knowing. Each has their place, their way of moving that is empowering for both, a win win relationship .
Many women hold a great deal of resentment and anger towards the masculine, and many men are afraid to put down the shields with which they have guarded their hearts. Who is to go first? Both are called to be brave, courageous and lay down their burdens. Women must hold their men in a field of love that allows the shame of past actions to be dissolved. Yes, the woman is called to be this love. Not concerned with whether it is deserved or not, it is. We are all deserving of love and it takes moving beyond the daily perspective to a wider viewpoint to truly see this. Our men have lived under a burden of shame for their past warrior roles and have no templates from which to guide them in the new way. They wish to express the pain in their hearts for their collective role but have been denied an opening by the feminine. Many retreat into addictions as a way of trying to ease their pain.
Yes, the feminine heart carries great pain for the centuries of patriarchal abuse that has left her disempowered and afraid to speak her truth. This has created a standstill that has gone on long enough. It is time to break this deadlock of blame and shame. Women, it falls to us to take the first step in reconciliation. We have the power and wisdom of our mother to draw on.
Men must be willing to become warriors of the heart, dropping their shields and allowing themselves to feel fully, to cry, to express their emotions without restraint in order to get in touch with their own hearts. This will lead them to honor the hearts of the women.
Women have to allow the men room to play their protector, shielding role. Men need to listen to the hearts and knowing of their women without judgment and to support her in walking her truth. Women want to be supported to flow their feminine knowing without being questioned by a logical male mind. Men want to be free to protect and support without feeling less than or overpowered by their females. They wish to use their strength to guard their women and children. Women want to be recognized for their intuitive wisdom and to flow their gifts of knowing to the earth and their families. They desire to be supported by the strength of their men so that they may move in the fluidness which is their nature.
Ultimately, this will lead to the inner balance that we all seek, of our inner masculine and feminine working in harmony. I have experienced the joy and freedom that comes when I held a field of love for the men in my life. Shame melted away, allowing the ray of healing to penetrate the heart. Distances and misunderstandings melted as each was able to view the other free from blame or judgment. It is a process, it takes time and effort to be fully present in the now. There can be no viewing of the other through the lens of the past, as that is what keeps the deadlock entrenched. Instead, it is a moment by moment practice to see the divine one another, to recognize that we are all doing our very best in each moment and to allow grace to flow between us. Call upon your angels to melt your own and others hearts with liquidlovelight and witness the magic that is possible. Let there be no more divisions, let us gift our children a new template of harmony between the sexes where each is honored for the gifts they bring. The new age is upon us, it behooves us to not delay.